Definition of Vaginismus (sometimes termed frigidity)
Vaginismus is an involuntary spasm of the muscles of the vaginal wall, and can make attempts at penetration very painful.
Symptoms of Vaginismus
Our thought processes are designed to bring about a bodily reaction, and with Vaginismus a previous negative experience of pain, or discomfort associated with either sexual intercourse, or inserting a tampon can initiate the process. Sometimes this can seem like something ‘just happens to you’, but this is not the case. Hypnosis treating vaginismus is a gentle, but effective way of moving forward with the problem.
The apprehension, or anxiety initiates a bodily reaction e.g. the vaginal wall responds by tightening the muscles to prevent anything entering. This can be extremely frustrating, and upsetting for both parties in a relationship, and in extreme cases can ruin relationships.
Some women may experience years of occasional difficulty when having sex, but be able to control and relax their vagina when the muscles tighten.
Other symptoms of vaginismus, or vaginal tightness:
- Hard or impossible penetration because the muscles in the vagina have squeezed tight
- Burning or stinging pain and tightness of the vagina when penetrated by a penis, finger or tampon
- Fear of pain
- Fear of penetration and avoidance of sex
- Sexual desire diminishes if penetration is attempted
It can seem like the spasm is involuntary because whenever penetration is expected, the vaginal muscles tighten as a protective reaction.
It is a myth that women with Vaginismus do not want or like sex, or that they do not enjoy intimacy, and share sexual pleasure with their partner. They can achieve orgasm during mutual masturbation, foreplay and oral sex. It is only when sexual intercourse is suggested or attempted that their vagina tightens to prevent penetration.
The new and innovative training program Thrive™, and Hypnosis treating Vaginismus by retraining disorganised thinking and thoughts, and offering insight into the problem. If we understand why we do the things we do its much easier to stop, but without the necessary skills and tools this can seem impossible.
Our thought processes are designed to bring about a bodily reaction, and with Vaginismus – the trigger event: sexual intercourse, or a tampon, can seem like the entire process ‘just happens to you’, but initially it would probably started life as a small fearful, apprehensive, or anxious thought, and in answer to this the (bodily reaction) vaginal wall responds by tightening the muscles. Furthermore if the fearful feelings are associated with pain and anxiety – it is no surprise that penetrative sex is avoided.
This can be extremely frustrating and upsetting for both people in the relationship, and the condition can ruin a relationship in extreme cases. Please contact me on 07810 640685 if you would like to know more about hypnosis treating vaginismus.