What is premature ejaculation, or PE?
Firstly, it doesn’t matter what your friends tell you – the average length of time for ejaculation in intercourse is between 2 to 5 minutes! From an evolutionary point of view this makes perfect sense because you have to be quick if you want to impregnate the best mate/have the most children.
Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual problems in males, and many men ejaculate faster than their partners would like. However, it is no joke if you are consistently climaxing too soon. There are an estimated 30% of men in Britain who experience this problem.
Does premature ejaculation matter?
Premature ejaculation matters if you, and your partner are unhappy and frustrated. it can be stressful and upsetting for both of you if your partner ejaculates before penetration. If you have this problem it will eventually impact on your self-esteem and confidence, and as a result become harder to manage.
What causes premature ejaculation?
One of the reasons why you have this condition can be guilt within early sexual experiences. Perhaps you were in a situation where you were rushed, and had to be quick to avoid detection. This can be when you were with someone, or while you were masturbating. This is not always the case and sometimes the problem can develop later in life, and in this instance it can be connected to a fear of not being able to perform.
Treatment for premature ejaculation, or PE
Hypnosis is an effective means of intervention in the treatment of premature ejaculation. If there is no medical reason why you are experiencing difficulty in containing ejaculation – there is a strong likelihood it was initiated by a previous negative experience (on a conscious level you may not be aware of). This only need happen once to cause the slightest doubt, anxiety, or fear and a message is sent to the body via the brain, and there starts to form a new belief such as, ‘I can’t control this’, or what if I ejaculate before penetration’.
There is a psychological term for this called Coue’s Law which states if there is attention to the idea, a strong emotional feeling, and no conflict between the conscious and sub-conscious the idea will then take root in the mind, and be followed through as an action. A further point to mention is within the concept of Coue’s Law is the harder we try to do something – the more difficult it becomes. This means you have begun a new learning process. The sub conscious then controls ejaculation, and the belief is you have no control over it.
This is not the case, because all you have done is learned a behaviour you don’t want, and with a good intervention you can challenge and change your belief system, and it’s my job to help you succeed.