Anorgasmia

Using Hypnotherapy to treat Anorgasmia
(sexual dysfunction)

 

Sexual Problems

Definition of Anorgasmia

Anorgasmia is a word deriving its meaning from the Greek language, ‘an‘ which means without or not, and ‘organsmos‘ also Greek means swell.

It is when a man or a woman are unable to orgasm, and here are various reasons for this:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety about sexual performance
  • Depression
  • Tiredness
  • Worry

Anorgasmia can occur in men and women.

Symptoms of Anorgasmia

When a man is diagnosed with a ‘Male Orgasmic Disorder’, and experience difficulty in achieving sexual climax, the cause can be medical, drug or alcohol-related.

For women, the condition is referred to as primary when she has never experienced orgasm through any means of stimulation. If the woman has attained orgasm in the past but is currently non-orgasmic the problem is termed secondary. For men, the disorder might present itself as an inability to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse or it might be seen as ejaculation only after prolonged and intense non-intercourse stimulation.

Situational Anorgasmia

This is when a woman can reach orgasm in some situations, but not in others. She may achieve orgasm with one partner but not another. She may have an orgasm with one type of stimulation but not from another. Or she may only have an orgasm under certain conditions or only with a certain type or amount of foreplay. These are common variations and within the range of normal sexual expression.

What causes Anorgasmia?

Some drugs impair orgasmic sensitivity (including alcohol). A common cause of Anorgasmia, in both men and women, is the use of anti-depressants, particularly selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors or (SSRIs). There are also various medical conditions that affect the nerve supply to the pelvis such as multiple sclerosis, diabetic neuropathy, and spinal cord injury, but hormone problems, and some chronic illnesses may also affect general sexual interest. Judgmental attitudes toward sex in childhood may suppress responsiveness, as may experiences of rape or sexual abuse, or the difficulty may be related to problems within the partnership/marriage and lack of emotional closeness, which can also cause low level sexual desire. Boredom and/or monotony in sexual activity can also contribute to secondary Anorgasmia.

Some research into this area note 33% to 50% of women experience orgasm infrequently, and are not happy with how often they reach orgasm. Performance anxiety is believed to be the most common cause of orgasm problems, and 90% or more of orgasm problems appear to be psychological in nature.

Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm, women who have not yet had an orgasm may have inhibitions of a socio-cultural nature that interfere with normal sexual response or have been subject of genital mutilation (female circumcision) that removes all or part of the clitoris.

Help with Anorgasmia

Hypnosis can help with anorgasmia, and is as a significant means of intervention. If there is no medical reason why someone is unable to reach climax there is a strong likelihood of it having been triggered by a previous negative experience (on a conscious level you may not be aware of). This only need happen once to cause the slightest doubt, anxiety, or fear and a message is sent to the body, by the thought process, and starts to form a new belief such as, ‘I can’t orgasm, or I need to orgasm quickly’.

There is a psychological term for this called Coue’s Law which states if there is attention to the idea, a strong emotional feeling, and no conflict between the conscious and sub-conscious the idea will then take root in the mind, and be followed through as an action. A further point to mention is (Coue’s Law) which means the harder we try to do something – the more difficult it becomes. This means the person has begun two things: a learning process (how not to orgasm) and a belief that they can’t.

This is not the case because if they have learned to do something they don’t particularly want to do there is now conflict between the conscious and sub-conscious, and through intervention the belief system can be challenged and subsequently changed.